Yesterday was not what I consider a good day. After a long and somewhat frustrating day at work I was in my first (and hopefully only) car accident. It was my fault and it was terrifying. As they say, everything happened so fast. Perhaps I was in shock but after it happened I could not think to do anything beyond sob, shake, and call my brother and then my fiancé’s uncle/boss to ask him to please send Adam over.
When I moved to Michigan in March of this year I had every intention of becoming as independent a woman as possible. I wanted to prove my mettle, so to speak. My dad is amazing and has always taken care of me. Through every new experience from college to medical issues he has been there to protect, provide, and comfort me like every great daddy does. Though I am forever thankful for my dad’s faithfulness to me, I wanted to have a time of life where I can prove to myself that I can be an independent adult.
Yesterday as I stood in the middle of a bustling road next to my busted little Dodge Neon, I was not thinking, “Now is my chance to be an independent, self-reliant adult!” All I knew was that I did not know what to do. I could hardly move for the first few minutes. In the midst of the chaos Adam arrived offering a gentle hug and reassuring words. Like the dependable man that he is, he took charge. He comforted me, answered all of the “now what?” questions that the police officer was asking, called my insurance company and answered all of their questions, and he comforted me some more. While waiting for the officer to come speak with me, Adam held me as I shook and cried, all the while humming softly. All of this came naturally for him because he was doing exactly what he was created to do. He was the perfect combination of strength and gentleness that Christ set the example of for godly men to follow.
Yesterday as I stood in the middle of a bustling road next to my busted little Dodge Neon, I was not thinking, “Now is my chance to be an independent, self-reliant adult!” All I knew was that I did not know what to do. I could hardly move for the first few minutes. In the midst of the chaos Adam arrived offering a gentle hug and reassuring words. Like the dependable man that he is, he took charge. He comforted me, answered all of the “now what?” questions that the police officer was asking, called my insurance company and answered all of their questions, and he comforted me some more. While waiting for the officer to come speak with me, Adam held me as I shook and cried, all the while humming softly. All of this came naturally for him because he was doing exactly what he was created to do. He was the perfect combination of strength and gentleness that Christ set the example of for godly men to follow.
In those two hours Adam earned my respect and in an entirely new way. I fell in love with him even more. While I moved here to prove my mettle, in that scary circumstance Adam proved his. Had I been in this situation without my dad, brother, or fiancé to turn to I know that one way or another it would have worked out. I know that these situations are the tough times in life that teach us courage and independence. Experience grows a person. Though I have been determined to gain my independence, as a woman it is a comfort and blessing to know that I do not have to be strong for myself. God has put loving people in my life, now including this incredible man. Adam rose to the occasion yesterday and behaved every bit as a godly man is intended to behave. He was tender and patient as always, strong, reliable, and wise. God used that horrible experience and Adam’s reaction to it to teach me more about what it means to be a godly woman. It turns out that it’s okay to be vulnerable and reliant upon the man that God has paired me with and a blessing to trust Him by trusting him.
Although there has not been a doubt in my mind these past ten and a half months since Adam and I began our relationship, I am now even more certain. Adam has all of my respect and confidence, which grow greater every day. When I look at him it is a wonder to know I am looking at the man who I and my parents have prayed for my whole life. Adam is an answer to every prayer and more. He is the one I have waited for and thank the Lord, he has waited for me.
With all of this said, my message to young women yet single is this: If you are willing to trust the Lord and wait for His timing, He will provide for you. Right now, as you wait and wonder, your Savior is shaping your future guy into the man and husband He created him to be. Do not rush Him. Pray for him. This is your time of preparation as well, but you will only be as prepared as you wish to be. Allow the Lord complete access into your life and be amazed at what results! Christ will romance your heart, bring peace to your spirit, and truth to your mind. He will satisfy your longings and give you joy, despite the circumstances and despite your relationship status. Someday, more likely than not, the man you're faithfully praying for and waiting for will come and I can tell you from experience, he is so worth the wait!
Our first picture together in January 2012
Adam and Conner (my nephew) in 2010
I love this picture!
Sanctified and Surrendered by Caitlin Marie Stacy is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.
1 comment:
Umm...ok....i so cannot wait until part 2. I seriously have tears streaming down my face (and you know how odd that is, for me). What an incredible story of God's love, gentleness, and faithfulness. I'm so happy for you (a little jealous too though). Love you lots! Can't wait until March.
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